According to Father Thomas Keating, one of the pioneers of centering prayer, the 3 programmes for happiness are power, control and approval. When I analyse my decision making I can recognise one of these needs taking precedence. These are legitimate needs for living but when our happiness depends on them in the face of lack we can find ourselves moving away from the centre of who we really are. At any cost we hanker after at least one of these 3 things as though our lives depend on it. We become imbalanced and self oriented.